No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

No More Mr. Nice Guy is a tough but really helpful read if you’ve spent most of your life people-pleasing and putting yourself last. What I appreciated most is how clearly the book shows that being a “nice guy” isn’t actually kind or healthy—it’s usually about avoiding conflict, hiding parts of yourself, and hoping other people will finally give you the approval you’re not giving yourself. That hit hard. The book helped me realize: • Saying no doesn’t make you selfish. • You can set boundaries and still be a caring, loving person. • Real confidence comes from being honest about what you want, not from trying to be perfect or “easygoing” all the time. It’s very direct, sometimes uncomfortably so, but that’s also why it works. If you’ve ever felt resentful, overlooked, or like you’re always the one accommodating everyone else, this book gives you language, insight, and practical steps to start changing that.

Stumbled upon this book years ago, and I’ve reread it several times since. I’ve also given it as a gift to family and friends more times than I can count. The title can be misleading—this isn’t a book about becoming rude or selfish. It’s about learning to be genuine and honest, instead of pretending to be someone you’re not. What I appreciate most is how practical it is. I don’t have patience for books filled with vague advice or abstract ideas like “love yourself” without explaining how. This book gives clear, down-to-earth exercises and examples that actually make sense. It’s one of the few self-improvement books that helped me put real change into practice.

Glover in "No More Mr Nice Guy" addresses one of the biggest struggles and heartaches for men in recent years, the dreaded Nice Guy Syndrome. And he succeeds in pointing out the causes and cures for said condition so that "Nice Guys" can become "Nice Guys With Balls" or "Good Men". He makes his case through first examining what he thinks are the root causes that produce these type of men. Then he works to present straightforward solutions to changing said behavior so men can longer be held back by these tendencies. Throughout the book he cites accounts from his own experiences and that of others he's coached interacted with over the years, he presents activities and suggestions to help "break free" from the nice guy syndrome and more. I personally found very little issues with the book. Glover delivers his message articulately and intelligently with humor and style. I do feel though that Glover's book is best read in conjunction with other books in order to insure you find your best self. I would recommend "Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss first and foremost. It contains a 30 day life style change program and really helps you see and reach your full potential. My other recommendations are "The Solution To Social Anxiety" & "The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us" these both go into the deeper wounds that may be causing your issues and how to heal. You may also want to pick up "The Selfish Gene" if your really wanting to know more about why people behave the way they do. You may want pickup "The Geeks Shall Inherit The Earth" to embrace and understand your uniqueness and why it often gets you persecuted. And lastly "The Rational Male" (volumes 1 & 2) for the most update modern take and understanding breakdown of the romance dating landscape. Also while Glover's book is targeted at men it is a good read for woman. If you were a woman I would pick up it and the other books I suggested but also "Why Men Love Bitches From Doormat To Dreamgirl". It's pretty much "No More Mr Nice Guy" for girls. I came across Glovers book, as well as many of the others, by chance and they changed my life forever. I just wished I had read them sooner. Glover's hard work and culumtive efforts have resulted in a master piece that deserves a place in the self help books hall of fame. Pick it up, and really take what he says to heart, and you won't be disappointed. 5/5 Stars!

I am basically a poster child for this topic / book. 80% of the material I agreed with on the first read, 10% made me think, and the last 10% I just don't want to admit to being true. The Good: It's the only book I know of or found that presents the issue of overcompensating through niceness in this fashion. Hard to explain, but the writing style is a lot more in your face and not like other "self help" type books. It makes for a quick and enjoyable read while getting to the point. The meat of the chapters is good material. I found myself on many occasions reading a section and actually feeling worse about myself since it was so true. Don't take that the wrong way, the pain of realization was a useful exercise. The truth hurts. The Bad: The anecdotes from the author's clients just didn't do it for me. I had a hard time relating to any of them (they do focus on existing relationships like someone else mentioned) and read as adverstisements instead of helpful, substantial examples. The exercises weren't all that appealing either, but that isn't necessarily the book's fault. My biggest gripe with the book is the label of "proven plan" on the cover. I found this to be lacking. Admittedly, I didn't work the exercises...but to me that is not a "proven plan". That is "a list of exercises." I was expecting "Do this, this, and this and here's why. Start small, work your way up here's how." (That's a plan) Conclusion: The book is totally worth the money. It is NOT a pick up book. It's much more useful and important than that on a deeper level. A pick up book will not help you if you are one of these "Nice Guys". Check it out for a decent read, but don't expect miracles since the "plan" part is a little light.

At first I thought the title was misleading and gave the wrong impression about the book and was asking for negative reactions and bad press based off of gut reactions. But if the author named the book something other than what he wanted to name the book due to what other people would think... That would be going against everything that this book tries to teach. The basic tenet of this book is benevolent selfishness. Take control of of the only thing that you can really control, you. Stand up for you. Take care of you (you're worth it). Help others, for you, if that's the person that you are and want to be, and not because you think that they will think better of you, or respond in kind. Learn to give without expecting to get back. Ask for what you want, because despite how obvious it might seem to you, most people don't know what you want, or even that how they act around you and treat you affects you positively or negatively. Don't be scared to ask for things. If you'd be willing to do it for someone else, they'd probably be willing to do it for you. The book on its own is full of positive advice, much of which we've heard before, but the exercises make you think. Take 1 minute and think about each one. I did this for almost every exercise and at the end of the book I felt like I had visited a therapist. I thought about many aspects of my life that I had never thought about and began to realize how many things I did just out of inertia, despite them providing no benefit. This book shines light into the darker corners of your life, particularly the bits about sexuality, and lifelong coping mechanisms that are based on early childhood. Seriously, who takes time out of their day to think about that stuff on a regular basis. Cons of the book are that the author does repeat himself a too much, and there are too many stories about guys in the no more mr nice guy group.

Good book for men that are still are gentlemen, but need to learn how to be a little bit more aggressive. It's creates a work in progress.

Very enjoyable read, great examples and some good strategies to implement Look formats to trying out these techniques and would recommend

If you're run-down and overrun big time by the "boss," driving a mini van full of vomit and screaming toddlers, and idling in the Starbucks drive-thru while waiting on your iced caramel mocha frappachino, maybe this book could be for you! Redeem yourself, man! It could actually REALLY help you! But if you're like me and still do crap for yourself and don't worry too much about tit for tat and pleasing the woman, maybe skip this read. Key here, the ideology being peddled is subjective to each individual reading the book. Randy Rager Roy Jenkins Jr. could read Chapter 5 or whatever, and swallow it hook line and sinker. He'd be like "What the hell!!!" and party and barbecue for a week, raise a ruckus, tell the wife/gf to deal with it because he's helping himself, and things could go really really badly. On the other hand, Billy could read Chapter 5, also swallow it hook line and sinker, and take a quiet weekend fly fishing for himself. A river runs through it! Things could improve in time for poor Billy as he carefully and cautiously applies the principles and ideologies. Sell that minivan, Billy! No more elastic pant! Step by step, Billy. Its all subjective! Depends on the person reading it! For me, book kept building on assertions that I could not bring myself to agree with. 2/3 of the way through, she's going on the shelf! Felt like the author kind of wants you to live and breathe the book, put the rest of your ideologies and convictions on the back burner for a while. Nope nope nope! Not this guy! I don't have it thaaat bad! I was just looking for some techniques, a little bit of light advice on understanding how to better handle my wife's periodic rambunctiousness! Not a danged overhaul! The redeeming quality is some of the insight offered by the author. Refreshing at times. And even with those big assertions I disagree with, there is definitely some really good stuff to be gleaned out of here! And for some, this book could really nail it! Like a deer rifle hitting the gong at 300 yards! But for me... it was more of a light shotgun peppering. But even if its a bullseye, if you just wholly trust and run with the book's ideology, you might end up with some serious changes. Meaning, divorced/single in a one bedroom apartment paying alimony and in a Nice Guy support group that the author keeps suggesting you find. Randy will be there! Everyone's truth is relative, so maybe if that does happen to you, you'd believe it was the best thing that ever happened! Maybe it actually would be! Who knows!? Who cares. Whatever you do, if you do want a good self help book that I highly recommend, first read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" By Dale Carnegie. It'll help you with the ole' lady just fine and dandy. That is a good, good book. It will only help you. A bit basic for some, but still a great, positive and encouraging read! My copy is tattered and torn, all marked up from years of re-reading. This "Nice Guy" book is more playing Russian roulette. Could help you or hurt you, depending on how you look at it, and what you value. It really depends on the reader. "Be careful with whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it."