I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Third Edition: Understanding the Borderline Personality

A very insightful for those suffering from BDP/EUPD and for family members to gain information if you are lucky enough to have family that care, mine don't.

I’ve been meaning to reread this for a long time and am so glad I did. I found it hugely informative and relatable (to those with BPD like me) Fascinating that up to 6% of Americans exhibit primary symptoms of BPD although many studies suggest this figure is an underestimate. In most cases BPD is a secondary diagnosis such as alcoholism, anorexia, depression, psychosis, bipolar, anxiety and so on. I was diagnosed with depression in the UK. And it is officially recognised as a major mental health problem in America today. The author calls it ‘a modern-day plague.’ There were some interesting I nuggets of nsightssuch as the fact that many BPDs have decreased sensitivity to acute pain (such as self-inflicted) but high sensitivity to chronic pain. Also that BPD exists on a spectrum of course, with many possible permuations. Another reason it’s not easy to diagnose. The book gives a sensitive but clinical in-depth analysis of the condition of BPD with a large chunk of it reassuringly devoted to how to heal. Because healing is definitely possible when the pwBPD becomes aware they have a problem – usually because of some crisis situation. Knowledge is power and I believe this book will help those with BPD and their loved ones to understand and therefore seek a cure. I highlighted around a thousand words of the book and even (rather obsessively!) copied out the quotes in a word document so I could re-read it at my leisure – it was that good and more importantly – that helpful.

I’ve not completed the book yet, but it’s fascinating reading. It highlights the things ‘you just take as a given’ that to the BPD person is a mamouth task, or how how a throw away comment that you felt insignificant, is a monumental moment in his or her week.

This book saved me when I was suspected of having BPD. I went straight to panic mode . I thought about BPD was do negative however this book helped me to see it differently & to change possibly mask some of my symptoms

Great read

I would recommend to anyone who is or knows someone with BPD

Really useful tool to help understand borderline personality disorder

I would recommend this book to anyone who cares for someone with bpd

Just prepare to learn things you did not know or expect. Very insightful and opens your eyes.

I bought this at the suggestion of Prof.Dr. Anil Kumar of "Manasa", the Head of Psychiatry at Ernakulam Medical College. This is a great book, and apart form seeing the Borderline Personality as an individual issue, the authors have highlighted it as a societal issue in Chapter 4, titled "The Borderline Society", explaining how our current culture and practices and outlook along with expectations can affect our mental health in a negative way and can make us sick. It explains how child abuse, increasing divorces, the frequent moves associated with work or otherwise, and the permissive child-rearing practices are creating a society with more individuals who are sick and can limit the "progress". Highly recommended for the lay person and professionals!

Very nice book and easy to read

Bra bok om Borderline och hur det är att leva med det.

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