Parent Effectiveness Training

I cannot say I read this cover to cover but out of all the parenting books I have tried this one was by far the best and probably the only one worth anything at all. Why? The basic premise is easy to follow.1. State the problem2. Work with Child to solve the problem.Yes, I think there are actually more steps which I cannot remember. Still, these two seem to work sort of, especially the part about acknowledging the problem. Kids really like when you show an honest effort to understand their issue.Honestly, that is all I remember about this book but when my kid is throwing a fit I will often think to myself "ok, state the problem" and they will often become noticeably calmer. I got this when my difficult kid was pre-verbal. My less difficult kid also responds well to these tactics except when tired in which case, all bets are off. Fatigue does strange things to small children.Actually, just remember that last point: "fatigue can do strange things to small children" and you should be good to go.

I first learned of this book during my last internship in Grad School and have been teaching parents many of the PET ever since.As a now licensed clinician, I still love this book - especially the areas on Active Listening, learning your childs non-verbal cues and signals, being in tune with your childs needs and decoding their language. I'm a big believer in teaching children about social-emotional literacy and making that a part of every day parenting. I love how it goes over scenarios and issues from young children to tweens and teens, and teaches parents (on a basic level) to communicate with their kids in a way they understand and is non-judgmental and non-threatening.The only draw back to the book is that I don't believe it under emphasized how important boundaries and rules are, and almost makes it seem as though children should be treated as equals to parents, which should not be the case. It also over emphasized compromising and negotiating with children.

This book has been in print for many years. I first purchased a copy thirty five years ago, when i was raising my children. . I got copies for each of my kids when they became. Parents,. Now for my niece. You would think I would have copies everywhere, but each was well used. Wonderful book on how to communicate clearly with children, manage strife and still keep your sanity and remain the parent authority..You become an " effective parent". Who says children don't come with an instruction manual? I think a copy of this book should be sent home with each and every new baby, or at least the first born..💜 it !!!

Raised our kids on this man's programme. Thoroughly recommended for,those seeking a non violent approach to child raising. Ours are now 37, 35 and 27. All thoroughly well adapted adults who are each making a positive contribution to society.

Really great book even though it is old the info still applies. I have been using active listening with teen, 21 year old and my domestic partner. A library patron requested it where I work and soon after a counselor also suggested it. I haven't quite finished it but already gaining benefit from the very helpful information.

I am a grandmother. I read this book when I was raising my kids. It really helped me when the kids didn't respond to my questions about"How was school today?" When the child is difficult it has some great methods to deal with them. So I bought this book for my son to handle his brilliant but sometimes difficult son.

Great help - I would get the audible version to listen to while driving too!

I found this book very helpful. I learned what a difference it makes, in which way you communicate with your child and with other people. It had a very positive impact on my relationship to my children and other people. I highly recommend it.

Came across p.e.t and was curious as I had the feeling we do something wrong with how bring up our toddler. If you feel that how you communicate with your child doesn't work than you need to read this. It's a complete system that if taken on board might save your relationship with your child and other people.

Not tol well written, but good info

every parent should have one of these + make ample use of it!!!! Totally helped us at home.

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Eccellente book and very useful for parents!It gives very practical suggestions on how to educate children. It really made a difference in our family.